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I've been thinking a lot about how it's been two years this month since my first miscarriage. It's so hard to believe and has gotten me pretty down, I think mainly because it doesn't feel like we're much closer to having a baby.We're not really decided on where we go from here. We know we're going to take at least 2 months without any treatments to hopefully get my lining to heal up. But we're also out of my insurance coverage for IVF. Meaning that anything we do going forward with the specialist that is related to infertility is ALL out of pocket.So- IF my lining starts looking better do we try and do a transfer? Do we look for a surrogate for our embryos? Do we just try on our own so that we can go to my regular Dr, but run a higher risk of more miscarriages and therefore more procedures? Do we start the adoption process? I don't know any more. It just feels like almost every option is committing a lot of money and/or time, with no guarantee of success.
If anyone has advice on what they think we should do I would love to hear it!
I do not have advice, but I can share that when we got to a similar point we literally wrote a pros and cons list of each option. For me, we knew my body would never successfully carry a healthy pregnancy, so anything that required my uterus was out. Surrogacy meant the possibility of another miscarriage and a lot of money because it would all be out of country. So, it just didn't make sense. Adoption involved a lot of lists because there are a lot of types of adoption (open infant domestic, open infant international, toddler international, foster adoption, etc.). Ultimately, we realized that open infant international adoption was the most sure way to have a healthy living child that fit with the type of lifestyle we want. If you ever have any questions about adoption I'm always happy to share our experience so far.
ReplyDeleteSending you lots of love and wishing you the best with whatever you decide.